Do you have a picture in your head of how Christmas should be?
Perhaps the tree is supposed to look a particular way; the presents must be wrapped and arranged to reflect a magazine spread or the sweet smell of fir trees must waft through the house (in spite of not a fir pine in sight).
While setting high expectations for yourself is in many ways an admirable trait, it can come at a high price – especially at Christmas time.
You may overstretch yourself, create high levels of stress and in some cases make you very unhappy.
It’s essential that we recognise when we are making ourselves miserable ( and those around us) because we are striving to achieve a “The Perfect Christmas”.
Let’s see if you can relate to anyone these Perfectionism points?
You get the picture. You know who you are. I know who you are…. I used to be You!
Here’s the thing – I get it. You tell yourself – “I’m not a perfectionist, I just like things done right”.
That’s ok; you don’t have to change. I’m sure your family/ friends love your unrelenting standards. It’s lovely to be the recipient of a perfectionist – you create the “perfect Christmas”.
There is a cost…. it’s your Happiness.
Perfectionism destroys Happiness.
It drains your energy. It makes you less fun to be around. It also distracts you from the present and if left to its own devices can make your relationships suffer.
No one wants to put up the Christmas tree with a Perfectionist. It’s stressful and makes you feel like a failure if you “don’t do it the right way”.
So…. I know what you are going to say (I’ve said it myself in Christmas’s of the past)….. “I’ll enjoy it when its all done – Right!’… “I cant relax until it’s done properly”… “I just want to give them a Christmas to remember”.
We don’t want you to stop caring. We love that you care.
But balance is the key.
These are the times we will remember….. not the perfect wrapping or where you cleverly put the elf on the shelf.